Bad things list

Here is a list of Carters bad behaviour in the last week

Saturday - Smashed a microwave with weights at a friends place
Sunday - Cant think of anything but i am sure he was swearing and fighting
Monday - Painted front door and letter box with house paint
Tuesday - I s in the street when I get home about to smash some empty alcohol bottles
Wednesday - Is in the street about to smash full bottle he thought was empty
Thursday - I find a container in the toy room he has urinated in and left there also threatened to burn house down cause he couldn't play game cube.
Friday - Whatever it is I hope he does it at his dads

Sorry I havent posted for a while have been super busy. Since I found out I have the job in Mandurah I had to start house hunting. You can not apply for a house without viewing it first. So that was my first hurdle I needed to overcome I was living 400 kms away from Mandurah, how do I look at houses when I am that far away? One of my friends came to the rescue. She lives only an hour away from mandurah and she let my four children, the dog and myself stay at her place for a whole month with her and her two children. It was also benefitical to her as she had to work during the holidays so i looked after her kids while she was working. After applying for 9 houses and getting sorry someone else has it I was lucky with number 10. I was the first person to look at it and every wall in the house was already damaged. It took a lot of fucking around to get all my furniture from merredin to here but it happened.

The new job I am doing is the best job i have ever had. I am working in a kindy/ pre-primary class for autistic children. We are running an early intervention ABA (Applied Behaviour Analysis) class. The aim of the program is to give the kids a head start academically and to teach them some social skills that will enable them to go into a mainstream year 1 class. The kids are just loving the program and are learning so fast. We do 3 hours a day of discrete trials which is intensive teaching and that is done in 30 minute blocks.

The kids on the other hand have become extremely unruly. I have given them too much freedom and now i am paying for it. They have been hanging with a local boy and have picked up some very destructive behaviours. They are going onto building sites and smashing bottles. I have come home from work a couple of times and caught carter about to smash some bottles. Yesterday he had one of my full spirit bottles and was walking around the street with it cause he didn't know it was full. We went to my friends place that we stayed with on the weekend and he smashed a microwave with a weight. When i spoke to him about it he said well they were doing it so i told him off for that and that he is responsible for his own actions and he needs to take responsibility for what he does.

Moving

Well life has taken an interesting turn. I have been asked by the principal at the high school to find another job. I was not given a reason to start with so I asked for a meeting with her to ask the reason and she said it was because I didn't fit the school. I am not upset as it has opened a new door. After I was told to find a new job I looked online and found a full time position in Mandurah (which is closer to my partner). I had one week in which to get the application in. I managed to complete the application and get it in with a couple of hours to spare. Last week I received one of the best rejection letters i have ever received. The letter said I did not get the full time job but they offered me a 0.8 FTE position (4 days a week) working with the kindy/pre-primary kids in a special needs unit. I am so happy this is my type of work. I have found a house in the perfect location and have an appointment to view it on Tuesday so that I can put in an application. The high school is on the same grounds as the primary school and the Education support centre so the kids can all go to school when I go to work and come home when I come home. No need for a babysitter. Yipeee.

getting there

Hello people. For the last two weeks I have been (with the support of my aunty) really getting into these kids. They now know not to push mum as she means what she says. The dishes are all done and the kids are even starting to wash their breakfast dishes without being reminded. The whole house is looking a lot cleaner. It will be interesting to see what my Mum says when she comes up tonight or in the morning. Well I am off to do a 15 minute tidy before the kids get up so will catch you all later.

Here are some pics of my kids.

Enough is Enough

Okay where do i start? I have two daughters and they are causing me two totally different challenges. Okay i will start with Lyndsay as her behaviour is less complicated. Last week I caught Lyndsay my 11 year old Lyndsay smoking in her room. I didn't catch in the act just the smell of smoke and a still lit cigarette outside her window. I told her it is illegal for her to smoke. Then yesterday while I was performing my boot scooting dances in front of the whole town at the Merredin Show she STOLE $25 out of my bag. She just does not seem to have a consequence thought pattern at all and that is really scary as it is the thought of the consequences that will stop a child doing something wrong.

Now Shaye is having a really bad time emotionally yeah I know she is 13 and all but she is being bullied and feels rejected. I can sympathise with her immensely as I was a total reject in school and the only friends I ever had used and abused me. So yesterday at the show one of the local bully girls threw a water bottle at Shaye and then the other local bully threatened to smash her head in so she got a ride home with my uncle because she had been crying for an hour. She also informed me that they call her a skank and a slut which is neither and at school when they see her they are like errr yuck its shaye. I mean how fricking childish is that? The only redeeming thing in all this is that when I was speaking to her about when i was in high school, I told her that i use to think I deserved to be treated like that and she said that was really dumb. Then while she was home some of her fair weather friends came over while I wasn't home. When I got home they had thrown the clean washing around trashed Shayes room and thrown the boys lego all over the place. At midnight one of the kids showed up making a hell of a racket. He then went into Shayes room where she was sleeping and was being really noisy. Shaye got up and went off at him because her brothers and sister and mum were asleep and he was being rude. Her supposed girlfriend turned around and told her to SHUT UP. She is lucky she is a minor or I would have slapped the little bitch. Anyway I got out of bed and went off at them telling them I was sick of the way they treat my daughter and my house they show no regard to others in the house or Shayes feelings. I then told them to get the fuck out of my house and not come back. I didn't even care it was 1am as they showed no regard for anyone so I felt hardly inclined to show them any concern what so ever. Then Shaye told me one of the girl sent herself 9 dollars of credit off Shayes phone. Shaye was saying I didn't have to kick them out then it could have waited till morning.

11th of september

It is amazing how much difference it makes being emotionally fulfilled. Since I have started this new relationship and feel wanted and cared for and best of all i no longer feel lonely. The housework is just so much easier to do as I no longer resent it for creating the problems in my life. This morning has been the best one so far the kids were all dressed and ready for school before 8am so have been playing lego happily together. It is now time to take them to school and go to work so will update some more later.